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"While many gay men have careers where they are respected and accepted for being themselves, several others feel that they have to hide, modify or conceal their behavioral characteristics and speak, act and dress more "professionally." But he posits that "professionally" is often a subconscious euphemism for behaving more masculine."Speice presented the analysis of these strategies in August in a paper titled “(Gay) Men at Work: Understanding Gendered and Sexual Identity Management Strategies in the Workplace,” at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association Section on the Sociology of Sexualities.

Speice addresses three critical areas where gay men manage their identity in the workplace: Dressed to chill Throughout the study, Speice uncovers a unique subconscious component to his respondents’ strategies for how they manage their identity, including what they wear.

Related: True Story Of Teacher Fired For Being Gay Subject Of Powerful New Film Speice said one strategy a respondent reported using to “test the waters” included mentioning the name of a gay bar they had been to recently in an effort to gauge the response.

If no negative reaction was registered they might feel more comfortable coming out, allowing them to present themselves more genuinely at work.

“From the initial interview to moving up the ladder at work, if a gay man feels his supervisors don’t agree with a gay population, he may not want to reveal his sexuality to them.“Instead he may test the waters with a variety of strategies, including managing the way he dresses, the way he talks and whether or not he decides to disclose his sexuality to the people at work.”Hiding in plain sight Speice explains these strategies for avoiding scrutiny using a concept he termed "hegemonic sexuality," a tool he uses to understand how gay men are positioned hierarchically within society.‘From the initial interview to moving up the ladder at work, if a gay man feels his supervisors don’t agree with a gay population, he may not want to reveal his sexuality to them.‘Instead he may test the waters with a variety of strategies, including managing the way he dresses, the way he talks and whether or not he decides to disclose his sexuality to the people at work.’ He said that some gay men present what they feel is a more masculine version of themselves at work.Related: Study Shows Homophobic College Men Attracted To Gay Imagery “While many gay men have careers where they are respected and accepted for being themselves, several others feel that they have to hide, modify or conceal their behavioral characteristics and speak, act and dress more ‘professionally,’” he says, adding that “professionally” may often be a subconscious euphemism for “masculine.” “Sometimes the strategies are so intertwined that the participants themselves do not realize that their efforts to manage sexuality are also managing gender,” says Speice.“Whether they are conscious or unconscious, these strategies reinforce and perpetuate both idealized forms of hegemonic masculinity and hegemonic sexuality, indicating that some behavior strategies for ‘being gay’ are more desirable and rewarded than other ways.” The atmosphere of the work environment and the attitudes of those inhabiting it will also help determine whether or not they feel comfortable coming out, and how they go about doing so if they decide to take that step.